Blog: ‘Children share the same money worries as their parents’

The pressure on many of the children is constant and relentless. 

I’m right there, based in their primary school, and there to help any pupils and their families who might need some extra support.

Their homes may be overcrowded and they will often have far more knowledge about their households’ finances than other children and carry that awareness around day after day.

It is a constant strain and they don’t have anything to look forward to or things to enjoy.

Their families cannot afford the same days out and treats that other children can expect and the pressure just builds and builds.

Poverty takes a toll on the physical and mental health of children and their parents and then there are the other social issues, linked to poverty, like domestic abuse and issues with drink or drugs.

Pupils will arrive at school cold, wet, tired and hungry. Their clothes and shoes might be inadequate for the weather. 

I have a rail of clothes in my office to offer children if they need a jumper or a winter jacket or whatever.

Their home lives may be cramped or more chaotic and are often sharing the same anxieties caused by a lack of money affecting the mental health and wellbeing of parents.

The priority is to offer them any practical help available but also to relieve the pressure a little, to give them the space to talk.

They might want to chat about what is going on with them but often simply enjoy the chance to talk and think about something else, about the everyday stuff other children can take for granted.

Just that simple opportunity to talk about themselves and the things they enjoy doing, or are good at, can help.

School is often a safe space, away from what can be difficulties at home, and that is why it can be so important for children.

The impact of lockdown, for example, when schools were closed was particularly felt by pupils who rely on the routine, safety and support.

Louise*
Aberlour pupil support worker

*Name changed

This article was written as part of the 'We are family' special edition supplement with the Sunday Post.